I want to be more socially active in 2017. I graduated in 2013 , got a dev job and since then been living in a virtual world w/o any interaction whatsoever with people outside of professional environment.
In 2017, I want to break this trance, get to know the real world and probably get a girlfriend. :)
One of the better ways to do this is to to take the lead. Be a leader, not a follower. That can be interpreted multiple ways: organizing events, inviting people to things, asking what you would like, not what you "want", even taking dance lessons (something like Salsa), not caring about the outcome so much...
Some wisdom from a book from the Ask HN Books thread [1]
> - choose carefully what you give a f*ck about, but when you do, do it right
> - there will always be problems, deal with them and move on, it's your own responsibility.
> - the constant pursuit of a positive experience is in itself a negative experience, acceptance of a negative experience is a positive experience
No need to be a leader. Just to be comfortable with yourself, being able to enjoy things that can be enjoyed socially is enough to attract other people. Salsa lessons are good advice. Also a wine tasting course! There you can follow others and be happy too.
I spend thousands of hours learning Japanese. If you not live in Japan, it is a totally waste of time. My wife is from Japan, why I learned the language. But because of still living in Germany, I regret learning it. I could learn so many other things.
