It is not about good tone it's about not being hateful and rude. Why is this that hard to pick apart?
Why do devs believe being rude is somehow a sign of honesty? They are orthogonal. This post needed none of the mean-spirited attacks that it contained to make its points. It is only hurt by the attacks as seen by the focus on "tone" throughout these comments.
It's all about tone. The original bad behavior is done without overt "bad tone" but if the response to it is spicy then the former is ignored and the latter is condemned despite being of lesser severity.
I can buy that it can be good corporate politics to not upset the superficial crowd that will immediately lash out on tone, but I will not judge someone rightfully reacting on bad behavior that they've been on the receiving end of.
Also, I didn't say being rude is a sign of honesty, that's you extrapolating.
You can call it superficiality but there are just some of us who believe that treating people right is the core of this. You're viewing that as some kind of superficial virtue signaling but if we're not treating people with respect then there's not a point in doing any of this, it gets to the very thing that Kelley is complaining about.
To summarise it, as I believe this would be an exercise in futility to discuss with you: Bun/Jarred very obviously threw Zig under the bus when it was opportune and self-serving to do so after joining Anthropic.
So you don't have any. And after reading all of Jarred's posts and responses you found that he repeatedly thanked Zig and said he respected Andrew but that, after donating over a hundred thousand dollars to their work, his project had different needs than before and needed to change stack?
Incredible display of bad faith discussion. You should be ashamed.
Sigh, as expected. Incredible display of being unable to read between the lines and be dazzled by superficiality. But I don't expect even base levels of street smartness here. Why do nerds on a "well ackshually"-mission always think they can demand work of other people? "Please pointlessly spend time to walk me through something my comment history clearly shows I've already made up my mind on". I'm not your fucking caretaker.
Nothing superficial about 120K USD donations. I have personally seen nothing but good vibes coming from Bun to Zig and Andrew. Re-writing is not "throwing under the bus" you make it out to be.
I’m sure lots of rich assholes take comfort from this unfortunately common attitude.
This entire blog post exists due to someone clearly needing to vent, try to work backwards from that. If things were as peachy amicable as you guys imagine, this thread wouldn’t exist.
That someone needs to vent is not proof of anything. People get their panties twisted for the tiniest things. I would expect that if Andrew had a real valid reason than it would appear in this post. But it's really nothing but personal attacks with little substance.
The history of humanity is full of biting polemics and attacks on the character of others, just read Voltaire. Sometimes, attacks are deserved.
Yes, a world in which everyone is professional and "plays nice" sounds great but it also quickly becomes a mechanism for suppression of the truth. Not the situation here, but "decorum" expectations are sometimes precisely one of the functions that help bad people maintain power (consider how difficult it can be for minorities or marginalized people to speak truthfully about what's happened to them). Sometimes one person being blunt, honest, and a little rude is a necessary step in clearing ground for others to be more upfront about the bad behavior of individuals.
Why do devs believe being rude is somehow a sign of honesty? They are orthogonal. This post needed none of the mean-spirited attacks that it contained to make its points. It is only hurt by the attacks as seen by the focus on "tone" throughout these comments.